Conscious Connection for Couples

Do you remember the moment you met your partner? Can you picture it? What do you see/hear/smell/feel? Maybe your heart was racing, you felt nervous and were sweating, or maybe you felt tingly all over like there was magic afoot. Maybe you were excited and couldn’t stop smiling! Were you inside or outside, alone or with friends? Try to conjure up as much as you can remember about that moment and really feel into it. Take a minute to sit quietly, take a deep breath, relax your shoulders and your jaw, and close your eyes. As you sit and breathe, pull all of those memories forward and really feel them inhabiting all of your being until you are vibrating with them. Take another deep, slow breath, and as you exhale feel your energy extending down into the earth, rooting you and the vibration of those memories together.

How did that feel for you? Were you able to recall the exact moment you knew you had found your person? Could you put yourself back into that space and use all of your senses to bring that memory back into your body? When I do this exercise I feel very calm and grounded and can feel the deep connection between my partner and I. The strong energetic flow that brought us together, and all of the love that fills my heart to bursting.

It can be difficult to keep these feelings in the forefront as we get caught up in the day-to-day busyness of our lives; our jobs, household tasks, children… there is always something to do or somewhere to be! The days quickly slip by, and often our relationships with our loved ones are put on the back burner as a result.

So how do we maintain an intimate, loving connection with our partner as we go about our daily activities? The following list provides some simple tools that can help deepen intimacy and strengthen the bond you have with your partner.

• 30 second hug - Hugs help build feelings of trust and safety, and can promote open and honest communication. Making sure your hearts are pressed together, hold each other tightly for at least 30 seconds.
• Kissing - Take time for a slow, deep kiss before asking how each other’s day went. Give each other a kiss before leaving the house, upon arriving home, and before going to bed each night.
• Eye gazing - Sit quietly and look into each other’s eyes for a few moments. This can be done while holding hands, sitting facing each other, or lying down together in bed.
• Massage - Giving your partner a massage with intentional loving touch can be so healing for both of you. Buy a nice massage oil, light some candles, and really go slow as you explore your partner’s body. You could massage the hands, feet, head, or full body! Make sure you allow time for both partner’s to give and receive.
• Say I love you - Share these 3 simple words with your partner every day. It feels good to hear these words from the person you love!

With all of the above suggestions, it is helpful to ground your own energy before connecting with your partner. There are different ways of doing this. The simplest method is to close your eyes, relax your body, inhale deeply, and as you exhale send your breath down your body and out through your feet. This helps to calm the nervous system, grounding and centering your energy to keep you focused on the here and now. From this place you will be able to give your partner your undivided attention, bringing intentional loving awareness into all of your interactions within your relationship.

If you’re interested in diving deeper into conscious connection, I am offering a 4-week workshop series coming soon! A virtual version is also in the works!
Each session has a main theme and incorporates different massage practices, breath practices, energy work, partner poses, and meditation.

May we all bring more consciousness into each of our relationships! To not only honour our partners, but to also deeply honour ourselves.